November 21, 2015 Leave a comment


This is an interesting past post about why I write real-life erotica. Think it deserves a second look.


Originally posted on Monogamy Sucks:

This post is also featured today on my publisher Lazy Day Publishing’s Web site.

I thought I’d also share it on my blog.



Now, this may sound like heresy coming from a so-called erotica author —

But I have no desire or interest in writing conventional erotica based on the typical and well worn fantasy elements.

What I write in my latest novel Monogamy Sucks and also in my upcoming novel about online sex entitled Dear Hef released on Sept. 14 as an e-book,  is what I like to call real life erotic or reality fiction. Keeping it real was my mantra during the creation of my two novels.

It was my intention with my raw fictional diary of Jake Dalmas, the protagonist of Monogamy Sucks, was to depict sex, and particularly the swinging lifestyle, as it truly is — not as we fantasize it to be.

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Monogamy Sucks the sequel is coming together….it will be ready in a couple of years LOL

December 31, 2013 Leave a comment


It has been an interesting year…I left one horrible job…that was killing me with a brutal drive and ridiculous work….for another that is doing it with constant work.

However, I have continued to pursue my writing dreams. I am close to finishing my second draft of the sequel to my novel MONOGAMY SUCKS.  I am hoping to get it out after a few more drafts. It is very sexy and funny.

I will never give up my writing dreams until I leave this life. But even then…I expect to be writing in the after life.

Your dreams are yr life….never give them up no matter what anyone says.

They can fuck off if they don’t understand.

Writers write.

Dreamers dream.

Liars lie and die slowly inside….

Keep writing always.


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2013 in review

December 31, 2013 Leave a comment

The stats helper monkeys prepared a 2013 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 3,400 times in 2013. If it were a cable car, it would take about 57 trips to carry that many people.

Click here to see the complete report.

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Monogamy Sucks Three Years Later: How Lazy Day Publishing Changed My Writing Life…

December 8, 2013 Leave a comment

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Three  years ago this week Lazy Day Publishing took a chance on me and launched my wild swinger magnum opus MONOGAMY SUCKS on an unsuspecting literary world and reading public.

It has been an intriguing and rewarding journey ever since. My writing life has never been the same, and thankfully I  have lost the fear that kept me from showing my books to anyone for more than a decade.  Even more than that, I have found supportive readers who have embraced my novel’s frank, funny take on swinging, monogamy and sex from a male point of view. I dreamed of this, but never expected it.

I am forever grateful to Lazy Day Publishing for reaching out to me after I finally started posting chapters of Monogamy Sucks on this blog in May 2010. They encouraged me from the start and recognized the humor, pathos, eroticism and more anything, the potential of my story and helped make it much better novel.

On Tuesday, Dec. 10, Lazy Day Publishing celebrates its third birthday. Please help them mark their anniversary by checking out the books from their growing list of talented authors. Also if you have a novel you have dreamed of being published I would strongly recommend sending it to them for consideration.

Lazy Day Publishing also brought out my novel DEAR HEF and invited me to write a short story for their paranormal erotica anthology INDULGENCE: Tales of the Cirque Romani.

When I am finally finished editing my sequel to my novel MONOGAMY SUCKS, I will send it to Lazy Day Publishing as I know it will be in capable and supportive hands.


Still Here…Writing and Dreaming: Completed first draft of sequel to MONOGAMY SUCKS

December 30, 2012 Leave a comment


I am still here…writing and dreaming.

Just wanted to leave a short update for the readers of my blog about my current writing and upcoming books. As I hoped, I was able to finish the first draft of the sequel to my novel MONOGAMY SUCKS before the close of 2012. This was a satisfying personal achievement for me considering I don’t have as much time to write these days since taking a full-time public relations job this past August.

However, I will never abandon my writing dreams as I don’t write for a paycheck. I write for me. I could never hope to explain the joy writing brings to my life and how it feeds my passionate and creative soul.

My sequel to MONOGAMY SUCKS I believe will be sexier and even funnier that the original. The narrative follows my protagonist Jake Dalmas’ continuing naughty journey exploring wild swinging adventures, including sexy interracial threesomes and other hot encounters.  Jake’s honest diary and sardonic voice remains the constant as a humorous self-deprecating guide for the readers into these naughty worlds. And I promise you there will be shocking scenes you can’t read anywhere else.

Yet there is a serious side to my writing that rarely gets mentioned in reviews. My MONOGAMY SUCKS sequel also addresses the potential pitfalls of relationships, even open relationships and the limits of love. In the frank way my original novel questioned monogamy, the sequel will take aim at romantic and sexual relationships through the eyes of a male swinger who is a little more wiser but no less vulnerable this time around.

However, dear readers, don’t look for my sequel any time soon. I plan to spend 2013 editing and shaping my MONOGAMY SUCKS sequel toward a possible summer 2015 or 2016 release. After that, I am planning a sequel to my novel DEAR HEF as well for the fans of that humorous book.

Although I have no plans for a third MONOGAMY SUCKS novel right now, you never know. I am also planning at some point to take on other non-erotica genres such as Science Fiction, work life novels, thrillers, etc.

Please check my blog from time to time for updates on my writing, interviews and the progress of my MONOGAMY SUCKS sequel and other upcoming books.

And thanks for coming along for the naughty ride so far. Get ready. You haven’t read anything yet.


Am I the NEXT BIG THING?: Check out my author blog interview

November 21, 2012 Leave a comment

Am I publishing’s NEXT BIG THING?

Well, fellow author and sweet friend Shannon MacLeod seems to think so. She has tagged me as the NEXT BIG THING on Nai’lah Carter’s blog tour. Shannon is a cool author I met on Twitter. If you aren’t already, you should follow her at @themacleod.

The purpose of this promotion is to be able to discover new books you may not have heard about or for works that are still in progress. This is week 22 of the NEXT BIG THING blog tour.

So what what follows is the NEXT BIG THING interview — 10 questions about my writing, novels, etc. At the end of the interview, I will include links of authors I think will also be the NEXT BIG THING. Enjoy

What is the working title of your book?

Well, I actually have four books out right now on Amazon, including novels MONOGAMY SUCKS, DEAR HEF, an anthology INDULGENCE: TALES OF THE CIRQUE ROMANI, and my first novel LETTERS FROM CYBERSPACE. And I am finishing up the first draft of my sequel to MONOGAMY SUCKS that will focus on the topic of open relationships. I am hoping to have my sequel out in early to mid 2014.

 Where did the idea come from for the book?

The ideas for my novels came from my own life and the lives of people I met or from close friends. Through writing we explore our true selves even if the characters are nothing like us. Our lives ultimately shape our words.

What genre does your book fall under?

Erotica. Or what I like to call real life erotica. One reviewer described my novels as “Tucker Max meets Sex in the City.” I think that is a pretty good description.

Which actors would you choose to play your characters in a movie rendition?

I would say either Jason Schwartzman or Luke Wilson would make an interesting Jake Dalmas, the protagonist of MONOGAMY SUCKS, or Jimmy Rausch, the protagonist of DEAR HEF, if  movies or TV series were ever made of my novels.

What is the one-sentence synopsis of your book?

Novel MONOGAMY SUCKS is a provocative peek behind the scenes of a Long Beach, Calif. man’s mid-thirties lust crisis and his ensuing sexy, intriguing, humorous journey into the swinging lifestyle.

Will your book be self-published or represented by an agency?

Three of my novels — MONOGAMY SUCKS, DEAR HEF, INDULGENCE  have been published by digital publisher Lazy Day Publishing.  I published my first novel first novel LETTERS FROM CYBERSPACE.

How long did it take you to write the first draft of your manuscript?

I started writing my novel Monogamy Sucks in March 1998, however, because of my fears and doubts that anyone would interested in my story, I kept my novel hidden in my computer for more than 12 years as I worked on many drafts. Early in 2009, I read an article on the Huffington Post about how a number of best selling books started out first as blogs. So I decided to launch my novel on a blog one chapter a time in May 2010. Several months later, digital publisher Lazy Day Publishing offered me a book deal. I seriously doubt if that would have happened if I hadn’t put my novel out in the blogosphere and tweeted about it on Twitter. I believe Twitter is an essential tool in promoting my books and novels, writing in general as is Facebook, blogs and the Internet overall.

 What other books would you compare this story to within your genre?

Charles Bukowki’s “Women,” Henry Miller’s “Tropic of Cancer,” Anais Nin’s “Henry and June,” to name a few.

Each of them bravely and uniquely explored controversial sexual and societal issues in a frank, unsentimental manner exposing truth and hypocrisy alike. I treasure novels that truly take me on a journey and challenge my preconceptions about life.

 Who or What inspired you to write this book?

The two most influential books on me as a writer are Henry Miller’s “Tropic of Cancer” and Anais Nin’s “Henry and June.” Miller’s and Nin’s eagerness to explore erotic subjects in a serious way that were considered taboo at the time (1930s and 1940s) has always impressed me. Miller’s frank and brutal honest prose and Nin’s sensual, erotic and insightful diaries and description of her own sexual awakening have impacted my own writing. I say this humbly, but I view my novels MONOGAMY SUCKS and DEAR HEF as my attempts to write modern versions of Miller’s and Nin’s seminal novels. I would also have to mention Charles Bukowski’s novel WOMEN as having a huge impact on me. His honest prose and humor really impacted me. Bukowski, like Miller and Nin, went places most writers would avoid.

I wanted to write honest books about swinging, monogamy, sex, Internet sex, but leave in all the troubling, shocking and funny encounters most other erotica books leave out. Despite its explicit content, I don’t consider what I write erotica.  I call it real life erotica or reality fiction without the erotic trappings of your typical erotica novel. I want to make you think and laugh not just turn you on.

What else about your book might pique the reader’s interest?

I hope you’re readers will take a chance and read my provocative novels and won’t be put off by the controversial content. They are really like no other modern novels they have read.  My books have some relevant and interesting things to say about sex, relationships and monogamy, and are an intriguing exploration of the male sexual mind. I think my novels appeal to both sexes, but really have seemed to have struck a chord among women, which was unexpected. Yes, my books are explicit, but I believe its themes are more universal than one might think.

You can find me on Twitter at @gpwriter. 

I tweet a lot about my books, writing, sex and life.

Check out these amazing writers, who along with Shannon MacLeod, I believe could be the





Tomorrow Night at 7 p.m. PST I will be a guest on the NAUGHTY SLOT radio program to talk about my novels MONOGAMY SUCKS, DEAR HEF and INDULGENCE

March 23, 2012 Leave a comment

Tomorrow night at 7 p.m. PST I will be a guest on the Naughty Slot radio program to talk about my novels MONOGAMY SUCKS, DEAR HEF, and INDULGENCE: Tales of the Cirque Romani.

I was invited on the show by Amber Grayson Vayle, who I met on Twitter — follow her @thenaughtyslot   She is also an author in addition to her role as the host of the Naughty Slot radio show and TV series.

This is the 50th interview on my blog tour in support of my novel MONOGAMY SUCKS.

Enjoy. It will be a sexy conversation without a doubt.



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